Everyone is different and each sociopath is unique. However, there are a few common traits among those without a conscience. I speak from my personal experience with several sociopaths who happen to be men.
1. No Fear
He did not jump during horror movies, when he heard loud noises, or when someone tried to scare him. In eight years, he never once got scared. This is not normal. Run as far away as you can from someone like this.
2. Cruel to Animals
He used to shoot his cats with a BB gun for fun when he was little. No one told me this until after we were already married.
3. Actions VS Words
He said everyone was stupid and spoke badly about them, but acted as if they were best friends when he saw them. For example, he would complain about his family, but voluntarily hang out with them. His actions did not match his words.
4. Gas Lighting
He started telling different people different stories. He told me he got promoted at work, but when discussing the topic with my parents he said he was getting promoted soon. Then, he tried to convince me I was crazy and did not listen when he talked. It almost worked. This is gas-lighting, which is when someone manipulates another human being by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.
5. Sociopath Eyes
His eyes never change. If I cover the rest of his face in hundreds of pictures taken over the span of eight years, his eyes are the same in every photograph. His facial expressions of joy, sadness, goofiness and surprise never reach his eyes. They do not sparkle with delight or shine with happiness.
6. Not Faithful
He will never be faithful to one person. There is no force stopping him from betraying those who love him. There is nothing preventing him from cheating over and over again. He has no guilt and feels no shame. He will do whatever he wants, whenever he wants. There may be a period of time when he resists temptation, but in the end he will always give in. It is not a matter of if he will give in, but when he will do so.
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