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Writer's pictureKayla Noworyta

Is He a Boy or a Man?

Updated: May 24, 2020

If you want to know if a guy is narcissistic, uncommonly selfish, immature, or the devil in disguise, here are a few ways to figure out who he really is. You can also tell a lot about a person from their actions and the words they choose. There are subtle differences between someone whose love is genuine and a man only capable of egotistical love.

A self-centered man often says he will do things without following through. He may provide excuses, but this makes him unreliable. He waits for you to call most of the time or gives you the responsibility of initiating and maintaining contact. A proper man calls when he says he will and does what he says he will do. He has integrity, and his actions support his words.


A selfish man doesn’t truly listen when you talk and always brings the conversation back to him. He doesn’t ask questions to get to know you well. A gentleman listens when you talk, asks questions, and cares about what you have to say.


A counterfeit says he loves you and expects to receive something in return. He has a hidden agenda and the reasons for loving you may include how you make him feel, what you do for him, or how he cannot live without you. A sincere man declares his love, expecting nothing in return. He loves you for who you are. Your flaws don’t deter him and he will fight for your relationship.


An untrustworthy man says he is sorry, but the apology is empty. It isn’t a real confession. An honest man admits when he hurts you and asks for forgiveness without making you feel bad for your role in the situation. He sincerely apologizes when he wrongs you and accepts responsibility.


A man hiding behind a mask doesn’t care about how you feel and won’t understand no matter how many times you try to explain. He is inconvenienced by your feelings while a real man wants to understand how you feel and listens when you talk about what bothers you.


A narcissistic man sucks the life out of your soul. You feel drained and exhausted after being around him because he steals your energy. The right one gives you energy, supports you, and encourages you. He respects you and wants to make you happy.

An insecure man doesn’t want you to hang out with your friends, claiming it is out of love, but really it's selfish. He wants you all to himself and doesn't care about your need to interact with others. A secure man loves you enough to want you to have other friends and spend time with them.


A boy wants your body more than you, but a man of God pursues your heart. The boy keeps you up late at night and ignores your boundaries or need for sleep. The man respects you when you are exhausted and lets you rest when you need it without complaining.

 

Sometimes time is the best indicator of a phony man. Within several months they usually reveal themselves because they cannot keep up the fake persona every second of every day. There will be glimpses of his true self, even if only for a moment, so be on the lookout. If you are still unsure what type of fellow he is, I would also recommend giving him The Slipper Test.


Find yourself an authentic man and don’t settle for less. He is worth the wait.

 


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